During our trip Nina will talk to the Dutch, Flemish, French, Spanish and Portuguese children we meet. After all, how do they deal with difficult situations and emotions of grief and frustration? Would these children be able to teach us something about how to make opportunities out of difficulties? On this page she will give a brief account of these special meetings.
" This is me as a child. For this project I'm taking my 5year old self with me. With the same curiosity as I had when I was five I try to investigate how children deal with difficult situations and the difficult emotions that are tied to it. I'm especially curious about how they overcome these emotions, because I think children are exceptional good at this.
For me the process of making a film is the most important of all and why I love what I do. It's always a excuse of getting extremely close to people, collecting experiences I recognize and finding answers on questions that I am having difficulties with, just like the rest of us. "
Noortje: "If someone has died I think of the nice moments we had together and then I try to not think about the sad things".
Do you do the same Fien, with difficult moments like these?
Fien: "Sometimes.... and sometimes not. And then I just keep crying. Until my body says: I've actually forgotten, so why am I still weeping?
Oscar is showing his moves in Saintes, France
Hannah (14), from the village Tama in the north of Spain, lost her father.
She tells me how her friends helped her and can see when she is not doing well. She feels a sort of responsibility towards her mother in dealing with her loss.
"How am I going to tell my mother that I'm in pain when my mother is in the same grief?"
Alvaro is 9 years old and lives in the town of Lebeña. He tells me how sad he was when his dog died. When he feels this way he tries to think about football, the sport he loves. He wants to become a professional football player when he grows up.
Lucia and her sister Helena
Lucia (13) and Helena (15) have had a difficult year with there father getting very ill and laying in the hospital. They both deal with it differently. Lucia needs time for herself and goes skating to put her mind at ease. Helena needs the company of her friends. She tries to see the little visits at the hospital as something education. She wants to be a doctor.
Pilu (16) is also living in Tama, a small town in the middle of the beautiful Picos mountains. This super ambitious girl wants to be a doctor and is already practicing her stitching skills on her wounded pets (4 dogs, 3 cats, 2 ducks). When she feels upset she goes running, creating tracks al over the field.
After two months of cycling we arrived at our final stop, Portugal. Our first destination on the map is Porto. This beautiful city has a lot of memories for me. I know it quite well because of my dear friends Rosalinde and Pedro, who are living there. What a special feeling to arrive there by bicycle.
Met vriendelijke groet,
I am warmly welcomed by the Portuguese Marlene and her Flemish husband Gilbert in a suburb of Porto, Matosinhos. Together with Gilbert I interview their two children.
Daniel (10) tells me about how he has become more realistic in the things he wants for himself. He wanted to become an inventor for a long time, but maybe his ideas where to big. Now he is considering becoming an actor. The best way to deal with difficult thought is to think about something you really like, he tells me. For him this means thinking about lego, like how to create a new deck for his airplanes.
Fortunately, Sarah (8) doesn't experience too many troublesome things. But sometimes when she is laying in bed she does get worried about everything that might happen, such as having an earthquake. When she feels upset she tries to stay as calm as possible. This is an advice she also likes to give to others.
Here I got the opportunity to talk with Muhamadu (14), a very wise boy from New Guinea. Mahumadu told me how it felt to leave Africa and, as an oldest, leaving his brothers and family behind. He told me about his dreams for the future and how he is finding comfort in these thoughts on moments of distress.